Are you a Sex Addict?

Self Assessment

  1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual behavior or romantic fantasies from those important to you? Do you lead a double life? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  2. Have your desires driven you to have sex in places or with people you would not normally choose? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  3. Do you need greater variety, increased frequency, or more extreme sexual activities to achieve the same level of excitement or relief? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  4. Does your use of pornography occupy large amounts of time and/or jeopardize your significant relationships or employment? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  5. Do your relationships become distorted with sexual preoccupation? Does each new relationship have the same destructive pattern which prompted you to leave the last one? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  6. Do you frequently want to get away from a partner after having sex? Do you feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  7. Have your sexual practices caused you legal problems? Could your sexual practices cause you legal problems? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  8. Does your pursuit of sex or sexual fantasy conflict with your moral standards or interfere with your personal spiritual journey? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  9. Do your sexual activities involve coercion, violence, or the threat of disease? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  10. Has your sexual behavior or pursuit of sexual relationships ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  11. Does your preoccupation with sexual fantasies cause problems in any area of your life - even when you do not act out your fantasies? 
             Yes_____   No_____
  12. Do you compulsively avoid sexual activity due to fear of sex or intimacy? Does your sexual avoidance consume you mentally? 
             Yes_____   No_____

If you answered "Yes" to more than one of these questions and are interested in getting help or more info, here are a few things you can look into:

  • A Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) in your area.
  • A recovery program that focuses on Sex/Love addiction - Links for several different groups can be found at the bottom of this page.
  • There are many fantastic books written about this subject! Some of my favorite authors writing on this topic are Patrick Carnes, Robert Weiss, Staci Sprout, Pia MellodyAlexandra Katehakis

I was so overwhelmed and scared when I first realized I was a sex addict, but I'll tell ya, my life is indescribably better now that I am in recovery. I would go up against any dragon to feel the way I do out of my active addiction. Everyone has the capacity to change if they truly desire it. Though it may feel like it now, you are most certainly not alone.


Questions taken from the SAA website, which also has many other great resources!