Suddenly Celibate

Traveling the country in search of a formula for healthy sexuality,
a recovering sex addict unexpectedly meets the love of her life.

 Hi, I’m Jace, and I’m a sex addict. While in recovery I began to search for answers. I have spent the majority of my life as an addict and missed out on a lot of crucial information. After joining recovery, I discovered the little information I knew about sexual health was mostly wrong, and there were huge gaps. I began asking questions. To my surprise, it turned out most adults I spoke with had pretty dangerous misunderstandings about being healthy and safe in the sexual realm. The scary part was that most of them had no idea the info they had was missing a great deal of fact. I learned that word-of-mouth sexual education was the main source of information for most people and that there was plenty of myth mixed in. I also quickly found that people just weren’t talking to each other about sex and, frankly, didn’t know how to. In addition, I came across many people unhappy with the relationships they had in the past (or present) and curious about what other options might be available and healthy. So I decided to set out on a journey to track down accurate information and learn what it really means to have a healthy sex life. 

Personal stories intertwine with expert opinion, medical findings and psychological assessments. With exclusive access to the addiction/recovery community, this docu-series delves into the controversial world of sex addiction, explore the mental and physical components that make up a healthy sex life, and investigate the options for a happy relationship outside of the one size fits all mentality. This series brings love and sex into a whole new light!  

 


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Our Adventures!

Stefanie Carnes, PhD, LCSW, CSAT-S  is a noted therapist, author and expert in the treatment of addiction and intimacy disorders. She is currently president of the International Institute for Trauma & Addiction Professionals and has more than two decades of experience in addiction treatment. As a renowned authority on addiction, it was a true honor to get to spend some time learning about the history of sex addiction and the controversy behind it. She brought to light issues faced today by both addicts and their loved ones alike. A super fascinating interview!

We were delighted to meet with Christopher Shaw,  LCSW-S, LCDC, CSAT-C the founder and director of The Sexual Health and Wellness Center. Through a rigorous holistic approach, Shaw goes well beyond helping addicts recover from their addiction. He gives them the tools to be a wholly healthful person - mind, body and spirit. His programs work "to develop emotional, physical, spiritual, & erotic intelligence", and he really knows his stuff!

Mary Sharpe is the Chief Executive Officer of The Reward Foundation- Our Brain on Love and Sex in Edinburgh, Scotland. With new research coming out regularly on the brain's reward system, there is evidence pointing to excessive internet pornography consumption as a potential culprit in the rise of certain mental and physical conditions. I got to sit down with Mary and the Chair of the foundation to learn how pornography interacts with the brain. 

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Dr. Darryl Mead is the Chair of The Reward Foundation. He is an expert on the internet and the information age and has advised the Scottish and UK governments on the challenges of our transition to a digital society. Alongside Mary, he explained to me that adolescents are the most vulnerable to internet pornography and the consequences we're already beginning to witness. 

Dr. Gary D. Salyer couldn't have come at a better time on this journey. He is the creator of Safe to Love Again™ Workshop, Making Love Irresistible™ Workshop and author of Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Attract Your Soul Mate. I won't give any spoilers, but Dr. Salyer gently walked me down an entirely new path and changed my life forever. He is full of enthusiasm and passion and removes all the discomfort and fear around talking about love. 

 

 

 

Diana Groener, LPC and Jane Ward, Ph.D contributed a very powerful interview for the show. Helping treat sexual offenders, these two women are making huge impacts on each generation to follow. They provided crucial insight into sexual offense and what can be done to stop it from continuing. I really look forward to sharing this info.

Dr. Tammy Nelson is a Board Certified Sexologist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and a Certified Imago Relationship therapist. She has almost thirty years of experience helping people of all ages, orientations and genders find love, healing and passion. She has written several books and is an absolute blast to talk with.  We touched on everything from monogamy to single life, finding a partner to keeping passion alive, and everything in between!

 

 

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Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker®. She has been involved in the cyber dating world from the very beginning and has seen the good, the bad and the downright strange. She gave me a rundown of dating in today's dot-com culture and actually got me excited about getting back in the game. She has a wealth of hope and knowledge, and I'm thrilled to include her in this series.

 

 

 

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Alexandra Katehakis is the clinical director at the Center for Healthy Sex as well as a licensed marriage, family therapist, certified sex addiction therapist and certified sex therapist. She is a frequent speaker on sex and sex addiction across the country and in the media in addition to being a published author. Her information is solid and her approach is inspiring!

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An incredibly touching interview with Juanita Johnson: mother, daughter, hard worker, activist, inspiration. She is a true beckon of light in the recovery community and has a story that many can relate to. Fortunately for us, she tells it in such a wonderful way!  

There's no telling what will happen when you bring a dynamic force like Richard AD into an episode. As the founder of The Metro Underground, he has taken the North East by storm in uniting the entire spectrum of alternative lifestyles. My time with him was fascinating, eye-opening and a night I'll never forget!

If I could follow Justyn Hintze from the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance around for a month, I think I would be entirely set as a healthy sexual being. Through her work, writing and teaching, Justyn is leading the way to a more enlightened society. Her approach to sex education is open, fun and inclusive of all family types. She offers a comprehensive method for teaching that takes into account the different beliefs families have while still providing accurate information. I wonder what my life would have looked like if I met someone like Justyn earlier... By her side is her trusty companion, Beans! 

 

YPR's program director, Robert Ashford is an award winning recovery advocate as well as one of the most engaging people you're ever likely to meet. Robert is on the forefront of addiction treatment and policy change. I can't think of a better person to be speaking up for all of those in recovery who aren't able to. Really grateful to have gotten the chance to talk with him. 

Founder of Dancing Mindfullness, Jamie Marich knows a thing or two about holistic recovery. Incorporating movement into the recovery process, Jamie empowers people to discover mindful awareness. Jamie is also an expert in healing from trauma and has written five books. She is truly an amazing woman!

Larry Anderson, PsyD, LP patiently explains to me what EMDR Therapy is and how it works. After sufficiently blowing my mind, he continues to talk with me about trauma and neglect and how those can be major contributing factors when it comes to addiction. I quickly learned that he is not only full of knowledge but also great compassion. Now that I know a little about EMDR Therapy, perhaps I'll go check it out and do some experimenting with it.  

We caught Jesse Wheeler from Young People in Recovery by surprise as we bombarded him to learn about the work being done in his area with the Arvada Police Department. Jesse explained to us the program he and his fellow members of YPR are building with the Arvada PD to provide drug users with recovery resources instead of jail sentences. It is just a pilot program at this time, but we can't wait to see it spread!

The cold autumn wind quickly left my mind as I spoke with author, Dan Griffin. He is so full of life and warmth. Within a few minutes I learned what it feels like to be a man in modern day relationships and how to utilize a sex funnel, and no, it isn't a new sex toy. I asked. I look forward to meeting with him again after reading A Man's Way Through Relationships!

Recovery Coach, Patty Powers knows a thing or two about candid conversation. As the host of Sex Talk, Patty encourages people to discuss and explore their sexuality in a safe, judgement free environment. She also works with people in recovery to help them navigate sexuality within sobriety. She not only talks the talk, but she walks the walk and taught me a thing or two about healthy sexuality.

Writer of Many Faces, One Voice: Secrets from The Anonymous People, Bud Mikhitarian is one of the most passionate recovery allies I've come across yet. With no personal ties to recovery, Bud made it his job to give a voice to the millions who have been voiceless. We were lucky enough to meet Bud in Washington D.C. and hear about his work with recovering addicts through 2013 documentary film The Anonymous People and now this vital book.

In January we sat down with addiction counselor Casey Arrillaga, LCDC to learn what addiction looks like in the brain and why we addicts do the things we do. His approach to explaining this is fun, friendly and easy for anyone to understand!

 

 

 

 

Laszlo Jaress is the Program Director of Faces and Voices of Recovery and gave us the inside scoop on the UNITE to Face Addiction rally. We discovered what brought him to the rally and what it took to bring the rally to us.

 

 

 

 

 

In February I hit my one year of sexual sobriety and was met with an amazing amount of support. To commemorate this most special accomplishment, I worked with a wonderful artist, CRTNZ to design and place a compass tattoo on my back to signify the year I found my way with the hopes I never lose it again. Of course the Suddenly Celibate team was there to capture the entire painful experience!

 

 

We have so many amazing interviews lined up across the country. 
Keep coming back!